Many people, even the most ardent and sincere seekers, are secretly or overtly terrified of transitioning to Fundamental Wellbeing, mostly because of the stories some Finders have told, like having to sit on a park bench for a couple of years after transitioning, or being unable to hold a job, or wanting to isolate from everyone and everything – including their family, and so on.
The reality is that these are very rare exceptions to what’s normal. The vast majority of people transition from seeking to Fundamental Wellbeing and simply go on about their life with a newly enhanced sense of extraordinary wellbeing.
Nonetheless, these beliefs are so pervasive, and have taken root at such a deep level of belief, that many seekers aren’t even aware of the degree to which this is throwing up all sorts of resistance to their transition. Even despite our enormous pool of research data, it took us a while to uncover and see it. The reality is that far too many seekers are afraid that a transition will mean problems for their career, family obligations, and so on — and there’s a very good reason for that that we touched on back in Myth #2 .
Although most transitions to Fundamental Wellbeing are gentle, a tiny minority are extreme. These are so rare that, as of this writing, out of the thousands of people who have used our research protocol to transition, I can’t think of a single case it has happened to on our watch.
However, people who have these more extreme transition experiences are much more likely to write about and share them than other Finders. And, that leaves the seekers who consume a lot of videos, books, workshops, and so on with the impression that it’s normal. That it is often what happens when someone transitions to Fundamental Wellbeing, when it fact it almost never happens. I’d even go so far as to say that these are a pathological and undesirable form of transition because of the toll they take not only in the people’s lives but on their psychology and experience of the world.
We know from our research that this perception has become one of the top reasons that more people don’t make the transition to Fundamental Wellbeing. Once we spotted it and were able to help our research participants identify and realize it wasn’t something to be concerned about, they experienced far more ease, flow and infinitely less resistance to waking up to a state of inner peace that was entirely consistent with the rest of their lifestyle and goals.
Although it’s unlikely you’ll leave your job and family and go sit on a park bench for a couple years, the latter is a very important point. It’s definitely important to be thoughtful about what is and isn’t appropriate for your life, and that includes the area of Fundamental Wellbeing. That’s one of the key things that our research provides you with. There’s no reason to accept centuries old notions of what Fundamental Wellbeing should be like.
Again, people from all walks of life transition all the time. A better question to ask yourself is how to not only transition to Fundamental Wellbeing, but how to do it in a way that is best in line with living an amazing modern lifestyle. This may be the greatest gift of our research. It allowed us to reach deeply into the lives of Finders all over the world and realize the core and most important aspects of Fundamental Wellbeing while leaving the millennia of accumulated dogma about it behind. This allows us to enter Fundamental Wellbeing in the modern era in a way never before possible, and in a way that’s matched to today’s lifestyle.
The reality is that Fundamental Wellbeing allows you to flourish in your life in ways that are, literally, unimaginable. The more you can free it from notions tied to past eras and outdated or no longer relevant ideas, the more this becomes possible.
Transitioning is just the beginning. It leads to an entirely new developmental trajectory, one that is only now beginning to get mapped out. We’ve done a tremendous amount of work on this and you’ll find a great deal on this website that shares our most important research findings about it.
All of this takes us to our Myth #6…